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2.5 stars out of 5 |
In her extraordinary bestseller, Adrian Nicole LeBlanc
immerses readers in the intricacies of the ghetto, revealing the true
sagas lurking behind the headlines of gangsta glamour, gold-drenched
drug dealers, and street-corner society. Focusing on two romances -
Jessica's dizzying infatuation with a hugely successful young heroin
dealer, Boy George, and Coco's first love with Jessica's little brother,
Cesar - Random Family is the story of young people trying to outrun
their destinies. Jessica and Boy George ride the wild adventure between
riches and ruin, while Coco and Cesar stick closer to the street, all
four caught in a precarious dance between survival and death. Friends
get murdered; the DEA and FBI investigate Boy George; Cesar becomes a
fugitive; Jessica and Coco endure homelessness, betrayal, the
heartbreaking separation of prison, and, throughout it all, the
insidious damage of poverty.Charting
the tumultuous cycle of the generations - as girls become mothers, boys
become criminals, and hope struggles against deprivation - LeBlanc slips
behind the cold statistics and sensationalism and comes back with a
riveting, haunting, and true story.
I guess that I’m not entirely sure what the author was trying to
achieve with this book. There’s no introduction, there’s no
conclusion--I don’t enough about her to know her motivations. To be
charitable, it would seem that she is trying to show, through the lives
of three main people, the ties that bind people into poverty, drugs, and
crime.
I have no doubts about how difficult it is to escape
poverty. When your parents are uneducated, violent, and poor, who can
you look to for an example of how to get out of that situation? During
this time, in this place, boys were fathers in their teens, dropped out
of school, and could only earn money through drugs and other
criminality. Girls are pregnant in their teens, dropped out of school,
and can’t provide for themselves and their children on minimum wage
jobs. Sexual abuse is common because children get left with people that
can’t be trusted. Girls skip from one man to the next because they’ve
watched their mothers do the same thing. No one has enough education to
properly fill out government forms to obtain benefits or to budget what
little money they have. Boys take advantage of their male status to have
sex with as many girls as they can talk into it. Girls can’t afford
birth control and view having children as a way to bind boys to them.
Add
to these problems that being a generous, good person can work against
you. How many times did these women feed people who were only “random
family”? Someone connected to someone who was part of the family? When
girls have children by 2 or 3 different men, all of their relatives
somehow become part of the web of family and women like Coco feel badly
about denying them food and/or housing. Yet she knows that it’s bad for
her own children in the long run.
These people are in a virtually
inescapable situation. Their only pleasures are food and sex and they
indulge when they get a chance--who wouldn’t? But when all the food is
gone and there are more babies on the way, once again their lives
worsen.
It was depressing reading because I know that the same
things are probably happening to the children and grandchildren of
Jessica, George, and Coco. Reading this made me realize how incredibly
fortunate I am to have been born into the family that I’m part of, into
the communities that I’m part of, and to be a citizen of my country. The
fact that the adults around me didn’t lecture me about how to live,
they just lived it and let me watch & learn. I learned to work, to
live within my means, to value education, to regulate my emotions, all
those skills that are necessary to living well.
I’d like to
think the author meant this book as more than just downward social
comparison, but I wish that she had addressed her purpose directly. What
would have made things better? Are there programs that could actually
assist people in these life circumstances? Ultimately, without this kind
of analysis, I wonder why she wrote it?